Thursday, July 1, 2010

Spina bifida

Let me start out by saying that I know life wouldn't life with out problems. That what makes life, life! Things would be boring and slow if we didn't have problems and hurdles to overcome. Each day we face problems big and small: What to wear, the traffic backup making us late for work, the jerk of a boss that wont get off your back, the kids fighting, your husband being an ass about the small things, or just not feeling well. I get it. I get that life is full of different problems. But some days present you with bigger problems than others..........


As if life wasn't full enough for us (just trying to stay pg. long enough to deliver a healthy baby), we found out today that our DD probably has spina bifida. Not only does she most likely have it, but she's going to need surgery on her spinal cord before it causes her more problems (severe back pain or paralysis). This something that her peds. back in GA knew about, but did nothing about! They were of the attitude of 'we'll just watch it.' A simple u/s would have shown if she had it or not. She is now having problems from it and something has to be done. She's only 4. I can't imagine the complications that would arise as time went on.

Is it the end of the world? No. Will she pull through this with a smile on her face? Yeah, she will. She's an amazing little girl with a heart made of sunshine and butterflies. But some days, you just don't want to find out there is yet another battle in front of you and that it involves one of your children.

Updates

It has been drawn to my attention that I'm a huge slacker and haven't given any updates in a while ;)

We've moved to Texas! It was a crazy time, honest. The home we'd found online, got pictures of, tons of info on, put a deposit on, etc, was NASTY! The pictures were from like 4 years prior and they let the place go. The neighborhood was disgusting with graffiti all over the fences. I pulled the crime report and in the month prior there were 4 breaks in and a shooting.... on that street!! Never mind the streets around it. So we were left in TX with no place to live. We have since found a home that...... well.... it will work for now. In a year or two, we'll be looking to purchase a home. Our stuff got here late and then a lot of it was stolen (good thing we paid extra for insurance!). So we had to file a claim that took over a month for them to 'settle'. It was a total joke. I'm sure there's an honest moving company out there, but Conntinental out of Anchorage isn't one of them!

I'm still pg. with our third, but barely (ok, no there isn't such a thing as 'barely' pg.). My pelvis is broken (it's easiest to say it that way, but the bones are pulling apart and it's very painful), my scar from my prior c-sections is too thin, the baby only has one artery in his cord, and I have contractions all the time. So, I hope to make it a few more weeks (wont go more than 6), but as soon as I go into labor, that's it. They'll cut me open and get the baby out.

P is doing fantastic. I've never seen her so happy! She's still up in AK, but plans on returning to Canada soon. Her divorce is final (YAY!!) and she hasn't been in contact with Jason at all. She gets full custody of her son, and 'dad' (sperm donor) gets visits in the summer.

Jason is still in Iraq. I keep in touch with his sister some, but don't really know a ton. He wife filed for divorce and is trying to take him to the bank (and she should!). He faked everything from what we can tell, including the cancer! He never had cancer and it was all part of his elaborate lie. It kind of makes sense now though, since P was 'done' with him at the time. He made it up to get her 'back' and it worked. She fell right into the trap. He is the things serial killers are made of!!


I promise to tell the suicide story in a bit.......